The first meeting never forgotten. As a foretaste of their first date, the creeps, in the heart of the heel. True, over time, a storm of emotions passes. And so we want to save the romantic feelings forever. And we’ll do it!
Love imaginary
The closer we get to know each other, the faster goes the romance. Therefore, to preserve light feelings should meet as seldom as possible: once a year, once every 5 years. And best of all – do not meet at all, but keep in mind the ideal of the Perfect Prince. Sometimes it is possible to feed this precious image of scenes from movies and novels. You can feed your prince any feelings and imagine all you want, – the perfect way to us this does not prevent. Unlike real-coated skin and coat male.
However: In this mode, live girls and senior secondary school age. They are willing to fall in love with actors or book heroes. Until then, until a real man (at least for the time) would not rival the perfect Prince dreams. But even if it is real there on the horizon, it can always be overcome with the help of imagination, constantly comparing it with ideal Chosen One. No man in the world will not sustain such competition: soon he would collect his things and then hides behind the horizon line.
Love is a one-way
Dear and beloved keeps you focused not notice – is not an occasion for joy? This situation also preserves the full range of romantic feelings! Unrequited, unilateral, non-reciprocal love can be stored for decades as a holiday service. It is akin to love for an imaginary prince. Reality Check no threat to your relationship: what the word is pronounced favorite, hitting a hammer on a finger, whether he snores at night, how many times in the decade, he gives the flowers? – These secrets and die with him.
However: These relationships are similar to long-term chronic illness, forcing many to abandon the real pleasures. True love is one-sided costs of its owner is very expensive.
Race with obstacles
If these infantile ways you are not satisfied, you can always save your love, find irresistible for two of circumstance. Just like in “Romeo and Juliet! Incidentally, it is unknown what would happen if these romantic heroes joined together under one roof in order to live together happily ever after. Dear Romeo, how am I tired of collecting your toes on the corners! ” “Juliet, but you are no busy, but I’m tired like a dog. And what about my dinner – again, not ready?”
However: Romance is subject to constant danger: a sudden you will overcome all obstacles? Suddenly, your persistence rewarded with complete success? What will then become the sacred awe of love?
Love is in perpetual motion
Psychologists know that the average half-life romantic feelings for two creatures who had settled under one roof, is 90 days. That is, we can expect that after three months of feeling will be two times less intense than they were in the beginning. A year later, they did turn to dust. About this, apparently, a tireless guessed “walker” Don Giovanni. And in recent decades such conduct has ceased to be a male privilege. Some of them live, alternating between two states: love came ‘and’ love has passed. ”
However: few manage to be consistent life. Because to live without stability for most adults too tiring.
Love triangle
You are like a train from a textbook of mathematics, constantly kursiruete from point A to point B. In section A you have a husband, over whom the word “romance” just sounds indecent. In paragraph in lover – and all the charm of a romantic relationship. Male life gives stability and comfort, and a lover – the excitement and passion. Husband sees wife “in all its glory home, and in front of her lover, against obstacles, risks and exotic setting, it appears ethereal romantic creature.
However: Suppose, someday my husband is tired, and he says: “A go-ka you to my beloved.” And then, seemingly blissful moment of connection: former secret lovers form a stable couple. Here are just a romance quickly skisnet by this turn of events. Incidentally, the statistics show: after breaking up with her husband because of infidelity woman continues to live with her lover in only one case out of 10, most often it is with someone in third.
Love has passed? – Go ahead
Preserving the romance, we discover through losses. They are of two kinds: either have to dramatically reduce the intensity of communication and practice superficial relationships, or hide his head in the sand and escape into fantasy. Or maybe it is worth to give up canned food and go for fresh produce? It may be worthwhile to stay with loved ones and see: what will happen beyond the 90-day romantic date? Is there a place for love? Some couples have already made similar discoveries. Love – very complicated thing, and the romantic element – it only a small component. But it was his praise songs, movies and novels. So many think that the other love just does not happen. And if you believe it, that love will “pass” every three months.
There is an alternative view: that the fever of love – is something like a down payment. Otherwise we would never have dared to make this risky adventure: to live together. And what will happen next, will only practice.