New time demands new rules: we are introduced to the sites, to declare his love for the e-mail address, accept the marriage proposal in “ICQ”. What are the pitfalls fraught marriage grew out of a virtual connection?

In 1995, America has its first dating site, Match.com. A year later, celebrated the wedding of the first pair, who met on this site. Today, ten years later, we can draw some conclusions.

Internet helps many people to meet – the only question is what happens after the meeting? Site Match.com, has connected for ten years, nearly 4 million single men and women, this spring celebrating 150-wedding. The founders of the site is very proud of this achievement, even though an outside observer, it seems highly debatable.

After the wedding does not mean a happy and long married life. Eric Spivack, a lawyer from New Jersey who has extensive experience in divorce cases, divided their statistics: “In the five cases of divorces over the last year in at least one – between couples who met on the Internet.” It turns out the marriage with the help of the Network has its contraindications.

Virtual trap

Not accidentally the first time since 2002, those who prefer to download music or movies, have left far behind wanting to create a “cell of society”. A quiet evening at home watching a new movie or listening to your favorite music seems to many a pleasant alternative to cohabitation. There are other reasons.

First, too many “lonely hearts” make themselves false information. Secondly, there is a suspicion that the marriage agency, hoping to attract more clients, often publish these fictitious candidates, combining the exterior model with a degree from Harvard and income slightly lower than that of Bill Gates. On this occasion, to the head of the most popular chat dating Yahoo Personals has even been nominated for a number of court charges that the administration of the chat, however, denies this.

But it is not only so much false information. That’s pretty typical story online marriage. Carolyn and Charlie Watson, both of New York, met online about a year ago. Started dating, they soon discovered that unites them just the same obsession with k. .. Irish stew. Happy gourmets once married, but after six months found: stew was the only thing that united them – this pair was no longer anything in common! Also, starting to live together, the couple discovered that they are not able to get along with each other’s children from his first marriage. Example seem anecdotal, but “virtualschikov” who married because of such “common interests”, not too little.

Check for yourself

To search for the pair over the internet both men and women are often pushed two weaknesses: the despair of loneliness and irresponsible daydreaming. None of these motivations does not lead to the creation of a happy marriage.

But much more likely to lead to short-term bonds. Wingrove Luce, a journalist 44 years, wrote a book about it, “You’ll give me your mail?”. In 2004, he met with 52 women (an average of one per week), and with 27 of them it came to the bed – and then, however, all was over. He still does not have anyone lengthy relationship and the practice of dating through the Internet has stopped – the experience in 2004 of his pretty tired. According to him, the Internet an ideal place to find a partner for one night, most of the women he encountered themselves invited him to his home – and not for a cup of coffee. In the possibility of marriage between partners from the Internet, he believes no more than the existence of extraterrestrials.

Those who tried to get acquainted through the Internet, learned from experience that this process is somewhere between the casting for the movie and interviews a job. Two people meet, without any natural inclination, with both welcoming smile strangely combined with a suspicious eye – a hair’s breadth as a customs officer. The average result of this meeting – the disappointment when the two leave the field meeting with a sigh of relief. Continued unlikely humiliating failure, the mutual affection – a rarity.

Science

Difficulties in online dating is well understood in the virtual marriage agencies, and to remove at least some of the problems, invent new ways filter unreliable candidates. Site Harmony.com, which has 1.9 million participants, found their way to check how viable will the new couple. This created a virtual laboratory relationship lab, where experts-psychologists for the past five years, analyze the behavior of the “doves”. The service costs 49.99 dollars.

Site True.com made sure that their hearts are 2 million participants were not divided: sanctioned for posting false information about themselves. As a result, in 2005 were excluded so many parties that have declared themselves free on the site, but in life married.

For those who cchitaetsya guarantee a reliable marriage a certain creed of the future chosen, there are Specialized sites such such as Jdate.com, all of whose members profess Judaism. Site Chemistry.com sincerely believe that the find will help native soul indicators such as testosterone or the size of the circle index finger.

But scientific evidence does not help to control chance. It is known that many couples who met via the Internet, plagued by doubt: rather than go to work if my newfound “half” after another quarrel over the Net? There are also quite funny cases: Anna and Michael met on the internet and found that they are united by affection and a sense of harmony. The happy couple divorced after two years of marriage due to adultery. Michael is guilty: he changed his wife with … man, admitted his homosexual nature, and now lives with her new companion. With whom he met, by the way, the World Wide Web.