“He loved her more than all the others,
but he needed the other to make this ”
(Natalie Clifford Barney, American writer).
In today’s society – though, like many centuries ago – is considered, and even promoted, as if men are polygamous. Nonsense! May be polygamous and women.
Surely, you know yourself more than one case, when some friend of yours, a friend or acquaintance’s friend for weeks / months / years, met once with two men. “The phenomenon of Snow White” – today is not so rare.
Causes
Depending on the reason for the “belosnezhek can be divided into 3 types:
The first type – “kollektsionerka” – a lover. It just catches the buzz on what she had boyfriends not one but two, from what she jealous girlfriend, finally, that she is clever and cunning konspiratorsha, a sort of Mata Hari.
Type number two – “doubting”. She loves two at once and can not make the choice to one of the suitors. And according to statistics, such novel ends on a “per one rabbit chase …”
“Kollektsionerka – predator. This latter type of Snow White, directed by pure calculation. She is one of those women who believe: a man no more than a profitable source, supplying gifts and all assistance, restaurants and good sex, financial aid or social status … And of course, he – a source of attention, care, caress. But one man can seldom offer a lady all. Therefore, the “Snow White – predator” says: The more suitors, the greater the benefit. One dumped at sea, the second will meet after work and drive to restaurants, the third just love … In general, the division of labor – an effective way of being our “kollektsionerki.
However, the reason for the “phenomenon of Snow White” can be another: let’s feminist desire for revenge on all men for their “polygamous”. Especially if and when the woman learned that her sweet, precious single lover has another passion. “Oh, what a man’s treachery! ..” – She exclaimed, and since then brutally, with blatant bloodthirstiness “dirty tricks” all masculine, avenging his wounded pride.
Well, on the main reason you’ve probably guessed. This is quite adequate woman’s desire to be relevant and marketable.
Pro and contra
Yes, the advantages of such a lifestyle are obvious:
+ The more suitors, the more flowers, gifts, viewed films, hours spent in cafes … (Note: Ministry of Health warns: hiking in places catering dangerous for figure)
+ Confirmation of self-worth. Gallery boyfriends – what is it the moral satisfaction of his own tricks, and irresistible!
+ A safety net for unforeseen cases: that is to say, but if one “Dwarfs” are you still rasstaneshsya will always remain different.
Still, cons, agree, more:
– Time to double twice. You can not be there and here at one time?
– Doubling the number of rivals, gossip, rumors and other troubles.
– Do not forget about the risk of exposure, because if your machinations unfold …
– And most important: living in two (or more) of the front, the risk increases in neurasthenia earn two thousand times.
Snow White’s life is calculated by the unpretentious formula: problems with a “dwarf” multiplied by the number of suitors, plus your time, effort and lost nerve.
– Oh yeah, and the main drawback – the ethical. In order to “puff brains” people (people, it is with a capital A) to cheat and lie, you must have a minimum of conscience, consciousness and a maximum of arrogance zameshennoy on selfishness and the endless self-love.
If you still want to have a multifaceted life, woven of adrenaline, double courtship and feelings, remember that 4 main theorem of “Love is in geometry.”
The theorem is number 1
Two points lying in one plane, you can connect a line. That is never chooses young people from one company, working in one organization, living in a yard or have mutual friends. This walk on the razor’s edge with obviously disastrous results.
Theorem number 2
Only you think that no one can hear your phone conversations in a whisper, the phrase “let’s talk later,” do not notice ‘anonymous’ bouquets in your house and never would never read your message. Remember, little things get on!
Theorem № 3
Lie so do not lie like a gas meter. The greater the lie, the easier it is to get caught. It’s the law. Therefore, better wits, keep back, not tell until the end. Let us not say that the whole day walking with his girlfriend (it’s very easy to check), better to admit that pestered shops – looking for a gift for the nearest holiday and … not found.
Theorem № 4
Do not boast of its “happiness” to the right and left: there is always the one / the one who “accidentally” let slip about the little things will give you with the giblets. Do not forget that people – creating, not without feelings of envy. Even best friends.
As you can see, the life of Snow White is extremely difficult. Are you ready to burst in two, three, seven pieces? Ready to live in constant tension, thinking: “How would like to not get caught? Although … and not in this case. Importantly – are you ready to constantly lie, cheat, cover the mouth of his conscience.
Ready? .. But what about the sublime and pure love?